Thanks to John Mayer for the intro title. He said it better than I could. I'm an engineer/computer programmer in the TC area. I am always interested in learning and trying out new things, particularly if they involve a man and a woman. Put simply, I love women. And I love making love with women. So typically, I tend to be more on the slower, more sensuous side. Before going further let me say to the younger ladies, please don't let my age stand in the way. Consider that with age comes maturity and experience. I like to go slowly, not because I can't go fast any more, but because I have learned that there is much more to be had in an encounter between a man and a woman when you take your time. And I'm not saying that I don't enjoy it hot, hard, and fast, rather that hard and fast is only one of many techniques available. I like to take my time and enjoy being with a woman. I like to pay attention to all the wonderful sensations that are occurring. Not just in the genitals, but the caresses, sounds, tender kisses, eye contact, even the scent of sex in the air. I also feel that it is much easier for partners to connect and move together when starting slowly. And I find that if you concentrate on the connection, each partner can find the rhythm. Once you're in sync you can move at whatever speed you want. The fast parts simply take care of themselves. They just happen when the timing is right. To me sex is a dance, the synchronous motion of bodies, timed just so. It's about making a connection, building passion, each partner fueling the fire at every turn. Shall we dance? Making love I have never really liked that phrase. Love can be given and love can be shared, but "making" love seems somehow not quite right. Still, I haven't found a better phrase and everyone pretty much understands what you're talking about when you say "making love" so I still use the term. What you won't find me talking about is making love [I]to[/I] a woman. To me that sounds as though the woman has no input into the process. Making love [I]with[/I] a woman. That's much more like what I want to do. Whatever happens is a co-creation of the two of us. I distinguish making love from fucking in this way: When fucking, you're more concerned with your own pleasure. When making love you're more concerned with your partner's pleasure or the union itself. Again, there's nothing wrong with a good fuck, and a good fuck can definitely be part of making love. Making love tends to be more spiritual, fucking tends to be more physical. What I want to do with you is to make love with you. I want to create a connection, a communication, an experience that is shared between a woman and a man that can not occur in any other way but by their physical joining. Come join with me and see what we can create together. Touch If you and I do get together for an intimate encounter, at the very least you'll get a decent massage. Massage is a wonderful way for people to get acquainted. Everyone loves touch, especially when it feels so good. When I give a massage, my hands seek out the parts of your body that are calling for attention. As they slide across your skin, my fingertips feel the structure and direction of the muscles lying underneath, looking for ones that feel tense, hot, or cold. When I find a place that needs attention, I stop and begin to work that spot more directly. Your reaction - whether you "lean into it" or shy away guides me further. Your motion, and sometimes sounds you make, let me know how my touch feels to you. You become a co-creator in the massage. Even though you seem to be doing nothing - just lying there - you help guide my hands and the direction I will go next. Many times I close my eyes while giving a massage so that I can pay closer attention to my hands. Through my hands I try to feel, inside my own body, the sensations that I am producing in yours. When I work on a shoulder, I try to feel what that would feel like if someone were doing it to me. The better I can do that, the more effective my movements become, almost as if you are guiding my hands with your thoughts. As you feel how my hands give relaxation and pleasure to your body you will come to understand the way in which I touch. So later on, when my fingers do finally slip between your legs, you will already know what to expect from them. Soft, gently probing, looking for the places that want attention, feeling your reaction, going where your body, your sounds, and your thoughts guide me. You become a co-creator in our dance together. And you can continue to expect the same as the action heats up. I seek to give you pleasure, not with just my hands, but all of my body. Searching for what feels good, for what feels right. Feeling your reaction. Anticipating where to go next. The gentle stroke of a cheek, fingers through your hair, skin to skin, or the faintest flick of a tongue. There is nothing so beautiful as a woman in rapture. But if you decide that my touch and my style isn't what you like after I have finished the massage, we don't have to go any further than that. It will be OK. Sometimes things don't work out. On the other hand, I've done this a few times before and I've had very few complaints, so I'm hoping that you [I]will[/I] want to continue. And I'll be very happy to oblige. Oh, and another thing - Don't feel that if I give you a massage, you'll have to do the same for me. If you want to, great, but there is certainly no obligation or expectation. Massage is a gift that I give, not a bargaining chip. I love to touch. And I love to give pleasure. May I?

My Ideal Person I am looking for a woman who is comfortable with her sexuality and understands the partnership involved in creating exceptional sexual experiences, an active participant, someone who not only is interested in sex, but is interested in helping create a memorable time.

I can't guarantee that the chemistry will happen, of course. But if you're willing to try, you're the type I'm looking for.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
From Beethoven to Lady GaGa, but not keen on

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
Being with a couple having sex, being close enough to see
everything, taking pictures, watching him fill her up
then trading places and doing her myself

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Massage

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Liv Tyler - Hot, bratty looking girl Nicole Mitchel (The Weather Channel) - Beautiful, but
cute at the same time. I just want her.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
Not yet, but I definitely want to try it.

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