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This article gives great advice!
I really liked your comments "jbsatx99, 55 C!"
I like the thought that we are here for our enjoyment and
our partners enjoyment. We must be true to that. Great comments!
Fascinating and very true...there are some folks you like
to chat with, some folks that you want to do more with, and
some folks it just isn't going to work with. It can be
anything from the way they use a word to physical appearance
or even just the mysterious but very important "gut"
feeling.
Good advice. We try to be respectful and kind, but some folks,
sometimes need it put a bit more bluntly. Patience, kindness,
and finally just saying no thanks and not responding any
more is part of how it all ends up. Thanks for the insight.
lady suzanne couldn't be more correct in following
the old addage that honesty is the best policy. one of the very first times i went to a swing club, i was so
overwhelmed w/prospective couples and single males wanting
to play that i felt absolutely harrassed. having not thought
about this scenario before attending, i was rather unprepared
on how i should handle the situation. what happened? i ended
up doing things i was not comfortable w/and as a result avoided
swinging situations for quite awhile. what i learned was,
only i am in charge of me and only i know what is comfortable
to me. i can't be mad at someone else for not being able
to read my mind. be honest. be firm. you shouldn't feel
obligated or required to play because someone is attracted
to you. and flirting and playing with someone does not obligate
you to sleep w/them. a new and enjoyable experience does
not always have to end in the bedroom. be grateful for
what a person is willing to share. not bitter about what
they are not willing to do.
I am not a swinger, but I know good manners when I hear them.
The advice is this article is good. No one should feel obligatede
to sleep with someone who does not attract them, and attraction
is a chemical mystery that even the most brilliant scientists
can't seem to figure out!
Great advice, to be polite & courteous goes a long way
Wow, some good ideas fro replies. We are sometimes unsure
of how to go about saying no without hurting feelings. We like to be friends with cpls we play with first and foremost,
whether we play or not. So, I particularly liked the idea
fro saying you'd like to be friends but maybe not play.
B
This article has fantastic information. It should be MANDATORY
reading for new membership. Thank you for the information.
Keep it coming.
This is a very useful article. The etiquette of rejection
is a very complex and awkward subject, yet this article
deals with it in a clear, honest, and friendly manner. Kudos,
Lady Suzanne!
People should not go to couples just to get some and this
is especially for the males, because when it comes to pussy,
we can sometimes be assholes to get some. Not many couples
want single male partners either because their married
or just trying to be a player. If the couple do want a single
male, they are selective about it to see if the person has
a very good chemistry with the couple. Personally, I wouldn't
want to swing with a couple, because I would think that they
would have kids and if I had sex with the female and I knew
that was either her husband or boyfriend, plus I knew they
had kids, I would feel that I am an asshole, but that's
just my opinion. Moreover, the couples wants to enjoy a
good freindship, not no one night stand that ain't
worth shit to think about. So I agree with Suzanne.
hmmmm....yeah u never know when the chic that u broke up
for to get into this new relationship will end, so u may be
able to go back for stickage after....=P
Interesting. The main things to remember is that we are
here for our enjoyment and our partners enjoyment. We must
be true to that. If we do not want the full sexual relationship
with somone, we should not feel pressured into it. But everyone
deserves an answer of some sort, and not just be ignored.
Most people can handle the truth or semi truth for rejection,
but start having doubts about themselves when ignored.
Better to reject then ignore. As you keep stating "We
are all big boys and girls here".